Monday, 8 April 2019

Love is never wasted: Lent 5

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You have to admit that Judas had a point.
A pound of costly perfume made of pure nard, poured out over Jesus’ feet. It is reckoned to have been worth thousands of pounds in today’s money. This was an extravagant gift, an extravagant gesture.

Nard was used to anoint the dead, among other purposes, and it was very pungent stuff, made from the spikenard plant. Maybe it had been bought when Mary’s brother, Lazarus had died. But Jesus had restored him to life, so it wasn’t needed. We don’t know, but, as I said, Judas had a point. The Gospel writer casts doubt on Judas’ motives, suggesting he was stealing from the common purse, and maybe he was, but whether that’s true or not, this does look like a terrible waste.  It could indeed have been sold and the money given to the poor.

But Jesus defends Mary. She’s recognised what none of the rest of them have, that he really is going to die. She’s seen that he knows this, and that he needs this loving, tender gesture, an action which communicates her care for him. Jesus didn’t go to his death with unruffled courage. He wept and prayed and sweated blood in the Garden of Gethsemane. He knew that crucifixion was the inevitable result of sticking to his message – you didn’t challenge the authorities and get away with it in his world – but he didn’t want crucifixion, no sane human being would. Mary saw his struggle and his pain, and she did what she could to give him her support. She gave him what she had, all that she had, that precious jar of ointment, because that’s what he needed at this moment.

As I said, nard is pretty pungent stuff. “The house was filled with the fragrance”, we’re told and my guess is that the smell clung to Jesus for a long time afterwards. Perhaps he could still smell a faint trace of it when he was arrested, beaten, crucified. Perhaps it reminded him that though the cruelty and pain were real, the love he’d been shown was real too.   

Mary gave what she could. It might not have looked like a sensible use of resources to those around her, but she knew that cost/benefit analyses don’t always tell you what you most need to know. Balance sheets are important, but they often can’t measure the things that matter most to us.

Mary’s extravagant gift here reminds me of the story of another gift in John’s Gospel, a few chapters earlier. It might not seem anything like as lavish, but to the person who gave it, it was everything.

It’s in John chapter 6 if you’re interested. A great crowd – thousands and thousands of men, women and children - had followed Jesus out into the wilderness to listen to him preach. The day had drawn on, and suddenly everyone realised they were hungry. Jesus said to his disciple, Philip, “Where are we to buy bread for these people to eat?” Philip, ever the realist, answered, “Six months wages wouldn’t be enough to give people even a little”. Jesus had set them an impossible task. Logically speaking there was nothing they can do here ; they would have to send people home hungry. It seemed they had nothing to work with.  Looking around rather desperately for any scrap of hope, though, Andrew announces  “There is a boy here who has five barley loaves and two fish” but he then quickly dismisses the thought that that might help, “what are they among so many?”  Five loaves and two fish aren’t even going to scratch the surface of the hunger of this vast crowd; that’s obvious to any rational person.

But Jesus only seems to hear  the first part of  Andrew’s statement. “There is a boy here who has five barley loaves and two fish”. Jesus sees what they have, not what they haven’t. He sees that this small boy, in offering his lunch, is giving everything he has. I don’t know about you, but most small boys of my acquaintance are extremely reluctant to be parted from their food, but this boy gives it willingly, his best, his all. That’s what Jesus sees – a generous gift, a loving gesture. And that’s why he knows it will be enough, because in God’s economy, it isn’t the size of the gift that matters, it’s the size of the love with which it is given. In the same way, Mary’s gift of this precious ointment isn’t sensible, logical, practical – you can’t prevent crucifixion by anointing someone’s feet – but it makes all the difference in the world to Jesus. The love with which it is offered makes it priceless, something which sustains Jesus through this terrible time. It might look like a waste, but love is never wasted.

Both these stories encourage us to be aware of the gifts we have to offer, an important thing to do as we come to our Annual Meeting after this service.  Our gifts may not seem great, like those loaves and fishes. Like Andrew, we might say “what are these among so many?” , “What can I do that will be any use?”. We might look at our church and think, “if only we had a spare million pounds or so, or a hundred more people, or a decent heating system and some toilets, just imagine what we could achieve…” But when we think like this we  often miss what we have, the precious treasures God has given us, as individuals and as a church; our personalities, our experiences, our voices, our time and talents, the particular strengths of being who we are. We may not be able to do what others people or churches do, but they can’t do what we can either. We are called to offer what we have, not what we haven’t, to serve as we can, not as we can’t.

Our gifts, like that small boy’s lunch, may not always seem great, but in Jesus hands, they can do much more than we imagine. Our gifts may not always seem practical or sensible, like Mary’s outpoured ointment, but they might make all the difference to others. We may see a sick friend and be aware that all we have to offer is prayer, or a hug, or a cake, when we know that what they really need is a cure for cancer. But that prayer, that hug, that cake may give them the strength to get through it. We could draw up a list of skills we wish we had on tap in our church – I bitterly regret that there was no module on boiler maintenance in my ordination training! – but we are great at loving and welcoming people, and if I had to choose between a cold church and a warm welcome, I go for the warm welcome anytime. Judas complains about the waste of money that Mary’s offering represents. He doesn’t understand that love is never wasted.

At our Diocesan Clergy Conference last autumn, one of our most inspiring speakers was the Director of Social Justice for the Diocese of Liverpool, Canon Ellen Louden. After many years of working in the area of mission and social justice, she’d come up with what she called her 12 rules for Christian Activists – and surely we should all be Christian Activists,  people who act to help the kingdom of God grow in our midst. I won’t go through them all, but there was one which really stuck with me. “Identify the good things” she said, “and give good things away”. Find the best things you do as a church, your treasures, and give them away. It is so tempting to try to hoard and protect and control what we think our treasures are, in the church or as individuals, to be precious about them. It is tempting only to give away what is leftover or doesn’t cost us much to lose – like the pile-it-high-and-sell-it-cheap “loss leaders” you see in supermarkets which aren’t really worth much, but lure you in to buy more of the expensive stuff. Churches do this when they attract people in with a glossy programme of events, but then make people jump through hoops really to belong, insist that they must believe and behave as the existing members of the church do before their voices can be heard. “You can’t just let any Tom, Dick or Harriet in; they might change things!”

Ellen Louden said that she’d learned that the churches that really made a difference in their communities were the ones who were open-handed with the things they did well, who identified the things they were best at, and gave them away freely, the churches which didn’t set barriers around their church life, but let everyone share their gifts and their opinions, whoever they were and however long they’d been there.

One of the reasons we set up our Talking Village initiative was that we recognised that talking is something we’ve got a gift for! We’re a welcoming and inclusive community; that’s one of our strengths. We’ve learned that and proved it over many years; Know Your Neighbours, Friday Group, our new Community Lunch, all those village events we’ve been involved with, often forming the bulk of the organising group. They aren’t the answer to all the world’s ills, but they make life better, and people who needed company and support have found it through them. God has been at work, blessing people and enriching our community. And part of the reason for that is that we have, perhaps unconsciously followed Ellen Louden’s rule, identifying this skill, but then giving it away, involving everyone who wants to be part of running those things whether a part of the church or not,  rather than trying to hold onto and control them ourselves.

Our Annual Meeting, after this service, gives us a chance to celebrate the things we do well – and there are many of them – to identify our good things. We look back, and look forward as we think about our church’s life. As we do, it’s great to be reminded of this Gospel story, of Mary’s extravagance as she gave the best thing she had, poured it out, literally, in a gesture that looked completely wasteful. But love is never wasted. Her story reminds us to notice what we have rather than what we lack, what is most precious to us, not so that we can hoard it protectively for ourselves, but so we can give it away, knowing that as we do, God will bless it and use it for the good of all. Amen

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